My kind of woman

What is my "type" of woman?  I've been asked this many times, but I'm not sure I really know.  But I'll share my thoughts and let you decide.


 Physical Attraction

I'm attracted to women that are medium build, a few inches shorter than me, 21-39 years old, smiley, curvy, leggy, and with shiny hair and good complexion.  This shouldn't be surprising as I'm a male that has been influenced by modern media.  I realize that there is no such thing as the perfect woman, but am I still too concerned with looks?  I would say I find about half the single women I know around my age to be attractive, based on looks alone.  So, I don't think I'm too bad, but you could probably also argue that I do think about looks too much:  If I find half attractive, doesn't that mean I only find women attractive if they are above average?  In any case, I disagree with women who think they are unattractive and look down on themselves.  Women should be told more often that they are beautiful.

Emotional Attraction

I'm attracted to women who are caring and nice, who are easygoing and can have fun doing simple things, and are good conversationalists.  I also prefer mature women over ditzy girls.  So basically, I like women with a similar personality.  I do think it's nice when we have similar interests too, but I wouldn't want to date a female clone of myself.  I think if we really like each other, we can develop interests that the other has.  I'll gladly watch Twilight with a woman if she'll watch Doctor Who with me, and I wouldn't mind going shoe shopping with a woman if she's willing to play a board game with me.  That's one thing I find attractive in a woman: willing to try new things.  That all being said, if a relationship is to develop, we probably need to have some sort of common interest just so we have something to do as we get to know each other.  So, yes, I like it when women like board games.

Spiritual Attraction

I'm attracted to Latter-day Saint women that have a testimony of Jesus Christ and of the  restoration, and attend all their church meetings.  I like women that use clean language even to the extent of avoiding "replacement" words that we often use instead of crude and foul words.  I like women who are modest in dress and appearance.  I also want a woman that prays and studies the scriptures, but this post is about initial attraction, not about things I'll be happy to find out as the relationship develops.  But on that note, I find it interesting that as I get to know a woman better, they often become more beautiful physically.  Maybe it's because I'm better able to see their spirit shining out?

So there you have it.  Nothing really surprising, probably generic attraction guidelines for a lot of men.  I wanted to make a mathematical formula that would match the data and so could be used to answer whether I was attracted to someone.  But, it turns out that attraction is subjective so I can't look at this objectively, and I have no idea which is more important for attraction.  Whatever the case, a wise man once said, "If you want to marry a Porsche, you better make sure that you aren't a Geo."  I don't know what kind of car I would be, but I'm working to meet my own standards.  No one is perfect, but hopefully we are trying to become better people.  Along with that, I don't believe that people find soul mates, but rather from the people you meet, you can create a soul mate.